Certain attitudes can also make communication difficult. If you want to truly communicate, as opposed argue, make sure that you are open to learning. If you check in and discover you are not open because of emotions or that you have an agenda, then you either need to shift your intent from being a controlling “listener” to an open communicator or temporarily delay the communication. You may need to tell each other that for now we cannot talk about this because we are “stuck” in a mode of unhealthy communication and need to try again when settled and ready to try being open. If you find yourself repeatedly stuck then you can only do what is healthy for yourself and your own well-being… and do the best in doing what you feel it is right for everyone involved. Realizing at least for the moment, you need to stick to what needs to be done.
Inner Bitchins 